You know that we’re getting settled in a new house, right? So, as I’ve been unpacking boxes and sorting through our ever-dwindling collection of “stuff,” I’ve discovered that I have so much extra storage space that I literally have cabinets with nothing in them. It is so liberating. I have to tell you. Liberating.
And, I have plans yet to go sort through the boxes downstairs in the toy room. My kids are gearing up for a big Yard Sale so they can sell their baby toys and save up for the latest Transformers they’ve been coveting. (According to my math, they’ll have to sell a lot of toys to get that Optimus Prime, so it’s still an effort in minimization.)
Now, as I have so much space to store the “stuff” I’ve managed to keep, there isn’t much adorning the counter tops or wall spaces. It’s a very minimalist home. And I am loving every deep breath I breathe in here.
Until my son came to me and said “Momma, this house feels lonely.” I thought he was talking about the move and maybe the emotional insecurity a six-year-old might feel to be uprooted and replanted in a new home. So, we sat down to chat. It turns out, he thinks the house feels lonely because the walls are bare. And the stuff is put away. And there’s nothing to trip over in his bedroom. So, because I am constantly psycho-analyzing my children, I started to ponder the question … what it is about “stuff” that makes us feel secure? Do we decorate so we don’t feel lonely? What is it about white walls that make us feel less content? Is it part of our human nature to create? To beautify? Can we not “nest” in a new home without clutter everywhere? Does it not feel “homey” without accoutrements? And more importantly–is that a learned perception that we can unlearn, or is it an intrinsic perception that we should find a responsible way to foster?
What makes your home feel like home?